Wrapping it all up

I hope you enjoyed the live blogging of our V-Day.  It’s always great to reliving some memories.  It’s amazing how time really does fly.   We are going on our 14^th year together as a couple and 9^th year of marriage.   We’ve officially known each other over 1/3 of our lives (and really more than that because the first 5 years don’t count, you don’t know anything!) We’ve been through a lot and have seen a lot.   Think about it, when we met we were 21 year olds in California; neither of us had ever lived outside of high desert.  Now as a couple we’ve travel all across the country, moved from Cali, to Indiana, and now Florida and have seen and experienced so many new things.   Most people dream of going to New York, we’ve been there twice, a lot of folks would love to see the white house, and well we’ve done it, twice.   We have a beautiful daughter, a dog, a house (soon) with a freaking pool.   It’s selfish to ask for anything more yet we keep getting blessed.   We do lived charmed lives,  I think we need to remember that.  We don’t deserve any of this and yet here we are.    It’s been great going through this with you.  Happy Valentine’s day.  

 

Hawaii

The beginning of our life as a married couple started Hawaii.  It was an unbelievable experience, one that I could of written a book about (and did!!!).   This something we need to remember when times get hard, not so much the wedding or even the commitment we made.  We need to remember that happy space we were in during this trip.   Obviously,begin in Hawaii makes that easy, but it's something that we should be chasing as a couple as a we go along this journey.   It can serve as a space we can go back to, anytime things get tough.

Having a Baby

I'm pretty sure I did post this.   What's great about this is that you forget crazy things are when you first have a baby and you'll just give anything to settle into the normalcy  This was one of my favorite times because it was just crazy, you never knew, when or how you would sleep.  Eating out was an adventure, but we were together when goal in mind.  Basically lets just get through today!!!



It’s true that you can have to much of a good thing.  You can’t have double fudge chocolate cake everyday or a venti’ triple shot mocha with whip cream from Starbucks either, which is precisely why I needed to take a break from the blog.  I decided that I was giving my 31 fans (at the time) way to much of the good stuff, so for their own good I had to give the blog a 5 month break.   Of course this is all a lie. In reality, because of my prioritizing post-baby ; the blog suddenly got pushed way down the list.   I just didn’t have much time for it.  Apparently having a new born baby takes up a lot of time.(who knew)

  Now that we’ve sort of settled into our role as parents I’ve finally found some time to blog.   The past 5 months have been crazy and nothing really prepares you for them.  Since Angel got pregnant people have always wanted to give me advice.  Some people say “get your sleep now haha” (because me being sleep deprived is funny).  Another favorite “you better learn to say no now because once she’s born that’s the last time you’ll ever say it”.  (Great so I’m going to lose my spine also).  Another good one “Your life will never be the same, never the same, I mean in a good way though, a good a way…yeah” (like they really haven’t made up their mind for themselves if they like being parents, then at the last moment they realize the need to add positive spin, to make me feel good).  Finally my favorite “this is crazy, you don’t sleep, you don’t eat, the first 3 months she doesn’t like you because you don’t have the goods and I haven’t seen my wife in 3 months.” Okay that last quote was actually me one cold February night trying to rock the baby in the living room at 2am.  It was a weak moment.  There are a couple of things I’ve learned that no one told me about prior to baby. 

You’re not the mama- At first I thought I was going to try and help, I thought I was a sidekick to this whole baby biz, but when you have a nursing mother, the dad has no use.  Looking at this from the baby’s point of view it makes sense.  “This strange guy is all in my face, he doesn’t have milk, doesn’t put my diaper on right, he has a huge head, there is no way I’m letting this fool hold me for longer than a second”.  And that’s what usually happened she was cool with me for 10 minutes but after that she had enough of me.  This leads me to my next point.

You don’t want to be the mama.  To be honest, when it was time for me to go back to work, I was like “this is great I need a break” because it’s probably quieter there then at my house.  I probably shouldn’t have written that because I will get slapped as soon as this is posted, but it’s true.  Men aren’t made for this.  It made me respect my mom, all mothers, and my wife even more.  You talk about a 24 hour job.  That’s literally true for the first few months of motherhood.  They don’t get to sleep, barely get to eat, or even shower.  I would come home and Angel would be in the same position every day.  Glazed look, on the couch nursing the baby, didn’t look like a great time and despite that she would do it all over again for Brooklyn.  If that would have been me in her place, I would have gotten my tubes tied by now. 

You freak out over everything.  You worry about her crying, her grabbing her ear to much, that she is wearing the same color for too many days in a row. 

Babies will change quickly.  It’s pretty amazing how fast they grow.  I would come home and it seems like she’s changed from one day to the next.  One day she’ll just be sitting there and doing the ESP routine (eat, sleep, poop) and the next day she will be sitting up and grabbing stuff, pulling on my ear almost out of nowhere.   

Overall, I can say this stage of parenthood is pretty good. She can’t crawl, walk, or roll, but she’s laughing, playing and showing all kinds of emotion.   Her favorite toys include towels and water bottles.   Right now I can put her in the bouncy and do whatever I want.  When she starts crawling it’s over.  I will actually have to watch her.  The next thing I know some 14 year old  kid with a baby beard will be knocking on my door (that will probably be the last door he ever knocks on). 

Your Pregnant

When you are pregnant it was one of the best times in our relationships.   We had a  goal and we worked together to make things flow as smoothly as possible.   I don't remember if I posted this in the blog, but it was a fun to recall the everyday feeling of your pregnancy

The other day I was watching television and Angel asked me if I’m going to treat our newborn the way I treat our blog.  I was confused, so she explained by asking if I’m going to be all excited when she’s first born (the way I was when I first started the blog, telling everyone, giving everyone the URL trying to get Face book followers), then as she gets older slowly giving her less and less attention (as the blog got older and I stopped writing), then finally pretend that she doesn’t exist (basically because I never write the blog anymore).   With that comment I knew it was time to write a new blog. 

Fall has come and it’s quickly going, in Indiana that means the weather is changing, there is one thing changing in the Elzy mansion also, Angel’s belly!! It’s grown to the point that many people have asked if she having twins.  If we are having twins someone needs to just come get me now, maybe I’ll hire a stunt double or stand in.    She is 36 weeks currently, which means we are getting awfully close.   The days are getting a little tougher and I thought it would be fun to recount a day in the life of Angel Elzy

7:00 am she wakes up – she can no longer sit up normally because of her belly, so if I’m not around she rolls over twice to the end of the bed, lean against the wall and props herself up. 

7:30 am she drives to work (yes she’s still driving and she can still get in and out of car)

7:55am she arrives at work and punches in time clock. (Quick bathroom break)

8:55am during recess a 2 year accidently hits her belly with a beach ball she cocks back and throws the ball back at the kids face, already the protective mother she it.

9:15am Just finished cleaning the classroom but knocks over a stack of legos when she forgets she’s pregnant

10:35 am bathroom break

12:00 pm Starbucks break

12:10 pm bathroom break

2:20 pm despite being pregnant stops a 2 year old from running in the hallway, while changing a diaper. 

5:00pm Works done time to go home, bathroom break first

5:10 pm See Starbucks, fights the urge to stop

5:11 pm Decides she sold of got Starbucks and bust a U-turn doesn’t even stop for the red light

5:15 pm bathroom break (local Starbucks)

5:16 pm Gets a Chai Tea (ask for her drink in a plain cup so her husband doesn’t find out)

5:30 pm arrives home

5:31 pm bathroom break

6:00 pm I arrive home, and rub her belly. 

6:15 pm despite her physical pains and aches she still makes dinner daily

7:00 pm Daily argument over watching basketball or food channel, I decide to DVR basketball because in an hour so she will be out.

9:01 pm she is falling in and out of sleep, I’m gradually turning it to the game

9:05pm Angel is out, basketball is on

9:34 pm she finally gets up to go to bed not without hitting the bathroom

12:12 am Angel wakes up hungry, therefore I’m waking up to get her Apple Sauce

 1:37am bathroom break. 

3:03am I wake up suddenly because I heard Angel talking.  I hear her say “this sounds good, yes with an extra pump please.  Thanks for getting me Starbucks Matthew” (who the heck is Matthew)

4:25 am bathroom break

6:30am it starts all over again.

Well there you have it.  Angel has been doing so well, I’m so proud of her.  Only 4 more weeks left. 

Old Picutres

I found some great old pictures.   It's unfortunate that I was rocking an afro in a lot of these.  I guess this was when I was wearing a curl, but didn't want to do my hair.   Anyway here are some good pre-married pictures

Hanging out at Mavericks 06\

Hanging out at the park in 05

Christmas Eve 07

San Fran 06

Christmas 05

Fun With Words

 i wrote this on Valentines Day 5 years ago.   Probably need to do a part 2 soon!!!! 

Scandia Blind Date, fake smile playing table hockey, awkward first kiss, first real date at Denny’s, long late night talk, dinner at red robin,  police pull up on us while hanging out in the mall parking lot, incredible hulk, in & out, and Dave & busters on my birthday, Boca de Pepos for doing my geography homework, driving to the beach, coming to see up at while you’re stuck on the freeway, shrimp pasta, Victorville, Apple Valley, driving to Big Bear, The Hill, Park view, people rollin up on us.  Late night talks, Eastern New Mexico, Portales, meeting up in Grants, driving down with Aunt Terry, Thanksgiving weekend, first I love yous, sorry for making you ride the bus, I didn’t have a car, More late night talks, coming home for Christmas, hanging out on our hill, Christmas dinners together, New Mexico new years in the dorm, lots of I miss you, thank god for spring breaks, thank god for summer breaks, lots of beach trips, drop by Victor Valley Christian to see you, June 14^th anniversary  at Red Robin, tough to leave, lots of I miss yous, Vegas basketball tournament, you can to my senior day, just one more semester, first long drive together, I did almost kill us, it was a fun 2 weeks, our first Thanksgiving together, I finally graduated and moved home, David’s Bridal, High Desert Mavericks, went to our first clipper game, san Francisco trip, Castaways for our 3^rd anniversary, thought I was ballin,  fun times at my ghetto apartment, with me through thick and then, you love kobe a little to much, got engaged, Palm Springs, Ramona, day dreaming about a wedding in Hawaii, actually getting married in Hawaii, having the time of our lives, Aarons, Diamond Head, Waimanalo Bay, Oahu, we begin our little family in Hesperia, opps we begin our little family in Indiana. 3 day drive, north haven, beautiful lakes, Indiana Pacers, Heartland Hall, Biltmore Mansion, Ashville, Chicago, Louisville, Castor Way, our park, quiet walks through the dark, Kobe, senior citizens community, Washington D.C. , baby on the way, Monon Center, lots of walks, you hate Kobe a little to much, Driftstone, Fishers, Clarian north, Dr Moon, 34 hours of labor, long day, all worth it, Brooklyn , symbol of our love, our little family, sticking together, 

May 2010 

Here a couple of my favorite pictures of you (where you happen to have the same sweat shirt on).  They are great to me not only because you look cute, but also because they trigger specific good memories.  

 

For instance, in this picture we were hiking around Brown county.  This is probably one of the first time we were there.   It was a nice fall day, we went super early October, too early because most of the leaves hadn't turned yet.  We still had a good hike and good quality time together.  I'm not sure were Kobe is but I know that crack head dog is here somewhere.  

 

This one here is the first times we found that little walking trail near downtown Zionsville.   We had Kobe of course and it was another beautiful cool day.  In Indiana we had to take advantage.  I love this picture.   It was on my desktop for a long time, you had a very genuine smile here and just seemed happy.   Sometimes we forget that at one time our family revolved around just me and you.  Its really hard to put myself in that place after being a dad for 6 plus years,  but we always have to remember that our marriage is built on the foundation of our love.